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It’s About Time.

What have you noticed about the passing of time these days? In my research with women as they age, the word “urgent/urgency” kept cropping up.

Jennifer at 56 said, “I feel an urgency to keep doing and staying flexible mentally, whether it’s learning something new or just letting go of stuff around the house.” Pat at 62 said, “Time is no longer unlimited. I’m ignoring some things, but know it’s urgent that I finish others.”

I remember just a few years ago, sitting in corporate meetings, no longer active in the never-ending game of who can talk the longest/most buzzwords/sound the smartest. Instead I sat there stewing about how they’re wasting my life. How I could be doing something – ANYTHING – that would contribute to society more than whatever the topic of discussion. Even if I was just surfing the net or practicing Italian.

I came across this thought-provoking article on from April 30 about how we perceive time.  It talks about research that’s been done, but I was most intrigued by the following paragraph.

            We experience nearly the same throughout our life. Remember, being small children, we perceived every day as a year because each day was  full of new knowledge and experiences. Adults are more familiar with the world as a whole, they do not consider it so unusual, and so they receive much less new experience. That is why the older we get, the faster the days go by. Therefore, filling our lives with new experiences, we can slow the time down.

What a great reason to travel, for lifelong learning, for going to that new Peruvian restaurant, for just talking to new people…to slow down time. I hope you’ve learned a bit, slowed down time and put the right things on your “urgent” list. And “staying flexible mentally” is one of those things, Jennifer!, April 30, 2014

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Mirror Musings from Thailand

There’s nothing like culture shock to help you reflect on your own people! I’m writing from a cyber cafe in Bangkok where tuk-tuks, giant tour buses, hot pink taxis and motorcycles zip by. But go a street over and traffic may be at a standstill for hours. It’s taken over an hour to get a mile each day, traffic is so bad. Yet, traffic in this gentle, spiritual country has already enlightened me. So I thought I’d share a few thoughts.

1. As bad as traffic gets, no one honks. No one flips the bird. And they don’t have road rage. They accept traffic as something to deal with in this city. Reminds me a bit of “No worry, be happy” in Jamaica, but this is the Buddhist peacefulness on 2 or 4 or more wheels.

2. Why must we be so quick to judge? In our little group of travelers, I’ve heard at different times how rude the Japanese are, how Germans don’t bathe, how people’s feet smell in the temples when we have to take our shoes off… startling all the ugliness that you can find when looking for it. With each comment, I wondered “what are all these other people thinking of us?” if that’s what we notice?

3. Nothing beats an ice cold beer when it’s hot AND humid. And you’re eating spicy foods. One of life’s true pleasures.

4. Like Gideon Bibles, hotels in Thailand have copies of The Teachings of Buddha in every room. What beautiful, simple words of wisdom. I think I’ll “borrow” it.

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Planning and Packing for Vacation

I am a week away from leaving the country for a 3-week adventure in Southeast Asia! Woohoo! There will be 5 of us who traveled to Costa Rica earlier this year going on this trip, along with 11 other curious friends we have yet to meet. The planning process is so encompassing — malaria pills, passports, which luggage, what summer clothes fit, etc.

Our tour company is terrific – Overseas Adventure Travel – and they do their best to make sure we come prepared. Today I got an email from our guide with a 21-letter name (we can call him “Matthew”) with reminders. We received our itineraries with packing lists and weather expectations. Plus I have Fodor’s and a book on temples, and walking shoes and the cutest new “Life is Good” t.

So why is it that we get SO organized around packing and planning a few weeks from home, but give little to no thought about all the rest of our lives? I know which elephant camp we’re going to, but I don’t know how I’m going to pay my real estate taxes. I have my seat on the plane but I keep putting off having my upholstered chairs cleaned in my living room. I have a “must call and reconnect” list that gets longer every day (you should see how many friends I’ve told I’ll see when I get back!) and that list will get longer and older before I make those calls!

We had a LifeSort workshop the other day and one of the participants commented on how powerful it was in getting her priorities out on the table and addressing some next steps. She later wrote that she went home and DID those steps and is making progress. Maybe because the workshop was written on her calendar, she had a start date to take some things more seriously. Maybe because I’m getting on a plane, that deadline is throwing me into action.

I’d love to hear your thoughts on what gets you “planning and packing”. What makes you look ahead and plan your life — something much more important than a trip! Comment below!

And if it’s a workshop you need, you can still sign up for LifeStyle this Sunday. Course this is the workshop that gets you UN-packing all those clothes that don’t do you justice!

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